It's been a long time since I've posted here. So many things in my life are changing and it really makes you think about life. There have been so many changes that have taught me to be more patient, to not to complain about trivial things and to enjoy life. Some changes are good and others make you question life. If you don't like people on band wagons then don't read the whole post.
Our oldest son is getting married on New Year's Eve. We love his fiance and are thrilled for them! They have dated since 9th grade and are so great together...all couples should have the same type of relationship. He graduated from Penn State in May and moved out 2 weeks later to start a mechanical engineer job. We recently became grandparents - of a tiny terrier/beagle puppy that they adopted from a shelter.
Our youngest son is looking at colleges as he is a senior in high school. His first choice is Susquehanna University. It's expensive but he is hoping to get a partial academic scholarship. He's a smart kid with a good head on his shoulders.
It seems very strange to think that we will be empty-nesters next year. It will be such a change for us. We are a very closeknit family and the thought of it scares me and excites me at the same time. What will we do with no soccer games to go to. What will I do with all the extra time from not doing millions of loads of laundry a week. But then hubby and I have some plans as well. I want to take a photography class and we'd like to take a course in wine appreciation and do some traveling.
But then there is always the possibilty that we could be parents again if something happens to my sister. She has been battling cancer for more that a year. And when I say battle...I mean battle. Last Oct 19, 2005 she was diagnosed with lung cancer. She was 40 with 2 young children and was also a non-smoker. Her cancer spread several times during the year - to a bone in her arm and to 2 tumors in her hip area. These caused pain and nerve damage in her left leg - or at least that is what the doctors thought. Recently she lost the use of her legs - it happened almost over night. She was life flighted to Georgetown University Hospital and had surgery to remove a tumor twisted around her spine. She is going to be moved to rehab this week to hopefully get her legs moving again and get her walking. I went to visit her again yesterday. She is pain free and bored out of her mind from spending so much time in the hospital stuck in bed as her back heals and spine strengthens.
I took her a pile of funny books and sudoku puzzle books. I've tried to get her to learn to knit this past year as I thought this would give her something to do but it just doesn't interest her.
She does not want her kids to be raised my her ex. And while she is remarried to a wonderful man...who knows if the courts would let him raise them if something happens to her. She has asked us to if it comes down to that. Of course we would!
So you can see where my life has been and where it is going. I take one day at a time, pray for my sister a lot - well I like to think I "talk" to God about her. I ask him to give her the strength to beat this - not for my selfish needs but because her kids need their mom. At first I found myself making deals - if you make her better I'll take better care of myself, lose weight, volunteer. But I stopped that pretty quickly. I believe things happen for a reason...and while I don't understand why yet and maybe never will...I just have to believe and hope.
Here is my band wagon. I warned you. Did you know that lung cancer is the number one cancer that kills women...not breast cancer. It kills more women a year than breast cancer and ovarian cancer combined. Here are some interesting facts: (From nationallungcancerpartnership.org)
Ok...I'm done for now. Hopefully people will read this and realize that while all the press that breast cancer receives is wonderful...there needs to be awareness of the risk of lung cancer in women.